Don't Say You Love Me

Here are the lyrics from Pretend with my edits

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Pretend You Love Me, by Sonny and the Sunsets

We've been through some things together

Pretend you love me

Pretend, pretend you care

I saw you walkin just the other day

Ive got some feelings I cant shake

Pretend you love me

Pretend, pretend you care

I dont know, I dont know what Im doin anymore I look in the mirror, I dont see, I dont see me anywhere

Now I have waited, dont go and despair

Will I dare?

If you see me wonderin where Ive been

Pretend you love me

Pretend, pretend you care

Pretend pretend pretend...

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My edited version:

Weve been through some things together

You never did love me

Don't pretend you care

I saw you walkin just the other day

You smiled your smile and with a big hug, said:

"Oh, it's so good to see you! How are you doing?"

Well, Ive got some feelings I cant shake

And thanks for the ride, lady

I want people to kill me a lot.

I am stuck in a downdraft and I haven't found the handle

You were never any good

And I Wilbured it up and over again and again

For twenty years I took your shit whenever you dealt it out

Insulting me and humiliating me over furniture and endless stupid shit.

I never did one thing really bad until I lost my job

You made it clear you were no comfort

"You disgust me," you would say to me.

And then I did some stupid stuff with money and lies.

I was protecting myself from you.

You who would find me beaten, bloody and scared.  

Then ridicule me and treat me like shit.

Say, "I can't be nice. That is not what I do. Get out if you can't stand it."

Sounds like crazy kindness now.

I chose to stay.

I saw such wonderful things in you and your family.

Always more to do. Always more disasters to avert and hope to store.

I was your servant. And you can fire servants. So what's the big deal?

You committed to a different arrangement than me.

So thanks for the ride, lady.

Maybe you are protecting me with your silence.

I know I am you with mine.

So for the time being, don't ever hug me. Don't ever touch me.

And don't without many more frank discussions first, ever ask me how I am doing.

Because it is still very unclear if I am going to pull out of this one. Knowing that you couldn't think less of me either way.

Don't say you love me

Don't pretend you care

I dont know, I dont know what Im doin anymore 

I look in the mirror, I dont see, I dont see me anywhere

Now I have waited, drunk on despair

Will I dare?

If you see me. Do something to help. Send in a friend.

Don't say you love me

Don't pretend you care

Pretend pretend pretend...

Care of the Soul

"Mythology, for example, often presents a cosmology, a description of how the world came to be and how it is governed. It is important to be oriented, to have some imagination of the physical universe in which we live. That is why many mythologists have noted that even modern science, for all its factual validity, also gives us a cosmology, a mythology in a true sense of the word."

"Myth has the connotation of falsehood, as when we judge that an assumption about the way things are is "only" a myth. Myth may seem to be a flight of fancy because its imagery is often fantastic, with many gods and devils o=r impossible acts and unreal settings. But the fantastic elements in mythology are essential to the genre; they take us away from the realistic particulars of life to invisible factors that are nonetheless real."

Moore, writing about how stories -- specifically myths -- enrich and support our lives and our spirits. This comes both in religious and secular forms. We love church and we love movies, too.

Thomas Moore - Care Of The Soul - Posting Group

Thomas Moore - Care Of The Soul - Posting Group



I am so impressed that I am finally reading this book and I want to share it with people.

I will post essays and excerpts as I go through the reading. I have been carrying the book around in my head and heart for almost twenty years. A good friend gifted me it soon after publication in '94.

What has me now is Moore's embrace of depression. Saturn's child is one phrase. And he is well worth following down this path. How much have we gained in trying to "fix" depression?

Maybe it is there for a good reason. From page 141: 

When, as counselors and friends, we are observers of depression

and are challenged to find a way to deal with it in others,

we could abandon the monotheistic notion that life always has to be cheerful,

and be instructed by melancholy. We could learn from its qualities and follow 

its lead,

becoming more patient in its presence, 

lowering our excited expectations, 

taking a watchful attitude as this soul deals with its fate

in utter seriousness and heaviness. 

In our friendship, we could offer it a place of acceptance

and containment.

Sometimes, of course, depression, like any emotion, can go beyond ordinary 

limits, becoming a completely debilitating illness. But in extreme cases, too, even in the midst 

of strong treatments, we can still look for Saturn at the core of depression and find ways

to befriend it.

Whadaya think?

3/4/13

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